How come my son doesn’t get the same ‘’super-family” treatment I got??
Sep 17th, 2007
So this is my story:
I was raised an only child by both my parents (my godmother recently told me that my father and mother seemed to be the perfect couple and have the perfect life for the longest time and she still doesn’t know what happenned to brake this strong family bond…) until I turned 12… I remeber being in my bathtub and I could hear my parents fighting: I kept putting my head under my bathwater because I could hear the conversation my parents were having… My mother was leaving my fathert for another man… That’s when all family values suddenly took the back burner…
Throughout the years both sides of my family parted farther apart and there seems to be little left of our family bond and tradition….
I gave birth to my only son on July 10th 2003, my father was there, my mother was there, my mother-in-law was there… It was was all great and super…
My mother came out of the wood works all of a sudden; her alcoholism had distanced her from me for the longest time… sShe wanted to be there for me and my newborn child so I let her back in my life (Ithought I was getting the mother I never had…) Well all she did was hurt me over and over again… My drunken mother fell down the stairs twice with my baby in her arms, she accused me of things I wondn’t even think of doing… She and I never really had a good mother-daughter relashionship… We hadn’t spoken before the birth of my son for almost 8 years, I thought my mother was back to fil her role,.. But she only ended up rejecting me and my son, again for the same reasons she had in the past…
My father who basically raised me demonstrates no interest in babysitting my son…. I have very confused feelings in regards to my father who was to me the best father on earth… Why won’t my father babysit my son…. Is my son not good enough for my dad? Am I not the mother my father thought I was going to be? How come I can’t rely on my father for help, tips, or even a few minutes of his time????….
I have lost a couple of jobs because I have nobody to help me (babysit) out when I am stuck… and it doesn’t seem to bother any of my family members, because they have never even offeredto babaysit my son…
My 5 year-old son remembers my father somewhat; he doesn’t remember my mother. He can really rely on his father’s side’ s family …
What am I suppose to tell my son about my side of the family (which doesn’t seem to care)
How can anyone treat a child like this??
Why doesn’t my family care about my son and I??
Hurt, abandonned and mad
September 17th, 2008 at 12:45 pm
Not everyone has the type of family that will babysit. It’s unfortuanate but you learn not to rely on them for that… it doesn’t make them bad people. Be thankful for the relationship you do have.
September 18th, 2008 at 5:36 pm
i don’t think it was anything you did or didn’t do…sometimes families just aren’t close. it’s too bad you don’t have someone close to you to give you a hand. can you find a responsible teenager close by that can babysit?
September 28th, 2008 at 9:11 pm
WOW….this sounds all too familar to me…except in my family the roles are reversed, it is my mother who is there and was the one to ‘raise’ me and we still speak everyday (we work in the same office), we are somewhat close….but she never helps me out with my son. My father, well he is another story. Even though I grew up with him in the house, he was never really a father to me….when he wasn’t neglecting me, he was yelling at me or opening a can of whoop-ass. I can’t stand him and he is out of my life, but he is still married to my mom. I just wish my mom would take my side and come visit her grandson without me asking her and babysit once in a while. I have NO other family…and like yourself, am also an only child.
I am still struggling with this myself…and I envy those who have wonderful parents who are there and who are caring and NORMAL