I thought we are ALL grown UP?!?!
Sunday, May 10th, 2009Yeah, like, I thought DH and I are all grown up?
As we looked back, we did all the partying but today, it was about parenthood and responsibilities. But for the rest of the people we thought were friends and family to us, refused to accept us for who we are for the better. DH doesn’t want to party anymore, he wants to be at home every night with his OWN family. And I am done going out to bars. Instead, I rather cook delicious meals for the boys and then do the dishes before settling down for the night with them as a FAMILY. And no one wanted us to change for the better. Thank goodness we live far from them.
Things are starting to come together as we plan on renewing our vows next year. We haven’t told everyone just yet (except at CPO on one thread on “Family and Relationship”) and we don’t regret making the decision to do it. We could keep some of the favorite wedding pictures, but for the rest? We will make it better for years to come in a positive way. I know it doesn’t seem like it was a long time (three years in July since we have been married, 5 years in October since we started dating), but we want to show everyone that we are not giving up on each other as a married couple and as a family. And that we are not kids anymore, we are mature adults.
Maybe I should make the apple cake as a main cake for the evening social? Carrot-apple cake? What kind of cake topper I could design? There is time.
Theme? Harley Davidson or Johnny-and-June Cash theme? LOL
Venue? By the lake?
So last night, DH was talking to a long time friend via FaceBook IM Chat and we were quite shocked to realize that our friend and his wife (who will be celebrating their 1st Anniversary in July) admitted to us that their wedding last year was NOT what they planned and they didn’t want to get married like this at all. Their original plan was to elope, with a private ceremony from a marriage commisioner, but things didn’t go their way at all. All of their families were upset that they EXPECTED them to do it in a proper way to make them HAPPY (I did not know that his mom, my former boss, was very demanding when she was such a great friend to me). They even didn’t want to be married in a church ceremony at all (gee, I thought the ceremony was beautiful,………..so I thought) and the food and reception was not their thing at all. So DH’s friend said that he and his wife regretted not standing up for themselves when it comes to their decisions as ADULTS, not “a couple of kids anymore”. To DH and I, we thought their day was beautiful, but I guess to them, it wasn’t at all.
All I could say is, for our plan to renew our vows, we are doing it OUR own way, and no one has to tell us that we are fools for doing this. The best part is, DH’s whole family (stepfather and all of his siblings) are not invited at all to be there to ruin our day. And we only are going to invite those who showed their true support for us as a married couple.
To tell of this, we are not fools and we are not vulnerable. We want to create a day that we want to show proof that we will not give up as a married couple and as a family.
