A normal, boring woman as usual……

I am a weird person,………….

August 6th, 2009 by punkyboy2006

And why am I a weird person?  Well, I am addicted to a show called,” ‘Til Debt so Us Part” and everytime DH and I look on the cable guide for something to watch out of boredom, we would find that show on the list and have to tune in to it, whether we are worrying about money or not.  No, I do not call it “comfort watching” at all (it is the DVD sets of “Roseanne” that comforts me LOL).

When I first got hooked to the show, DH would give me a hard time, telling me that he does NOT want to talk about money at all, as he would worry whether he will have to decide between getting the food to feed the whole family or “let’s screw it and buy a drill bit set for the drill that your brother gave me!”  But it did not take him long for him to get hooked to the show, because as we watch every episode, we would often wonder about how our adult siblings would think it is easy to buy expensive fancy stuff (like big homes, luxurious vehicles, rock concerts, a CABIN, etc) and tell us they ”worked hard for it” with a selfish, bad-mouthed attitude.  To us, it is too easy to lie to everyone that they are “rich” when they are actually “loan-rich” and “I-don’t-want-to-pay-the-bank-back rich”.

When we watched the part where Gail handed over the so-called “The Budget Book” to the couple, Dh and I so want to see what is in the “book” and get the idea on how we want to budget and what area we could cut back on (but so far, WE haven’t taken out Mcdonalds and we can’t remember when was the LAST time we eat out at all!………..oh wait, was it my parents that brought A&W’s over two weeks ago?!  Gad, I don’t remember at all, because I love COOKING and I am not taking a BREAK at all :D))  I know I can go to her website for info, no problem.  We could even shake our heads on why would people want to sign up for hobbies that actually break the bank (and I am being told not to give up my sewing machine at all, because I still have to fix DH’s shirts, and patch up the holey knee part  DS1’s favorite pair of jeans).  I could even shake my head even more when people buy too much clothing to look good (when I still have a bunch of outdated clothes and will never know when it will come back in style).  Even DH would shake his head after seeing that couples are fighting over how much they should pay back on debt (a husband likes “variable” spending while the wife insisted on “fixed” spending).  But overall, it is good to know that there are alot of people who do not want to admit to having debt and hving trouble paying them off.

Know what?  I would not be surprised if any of our adult siblings appeared on the show, admitting to trouble paying down debt and need help.  I just hoped they give up EVERYTHING.

Bwahahahahaha

Man, we need to stay away from that show,…………..

Gardening and garage sales

June 1st, 2009 by punkyboy2006

With the warm springy weather, my family and I loved spending time outside (with the exception of rain and strong, cold winds), so it was the opportunity for us to check out garage sales for great useful finds (if the budget permits).  We would skim through the free newspaper ads for garage sales, their locations and what kind of stuff will they be selling.  We would look for the kids’ clothings, plants, plant containers, records, cassette tapes and storage organizers.  But then, we would unexpectedly find things that we thought we did not need it but became very useful, for example, a broiling pan that people would not touch it (not ugly, but it has not been used at all and it looked brand new) and because broiling meats became the thing in meal planning, it was for 1 dollar and DH picked it up upon noticing it.  He brought the pan over to show it to me while I was rummaging through the clothes, and I was excited to see the pan that we had to buy it.  Since then, we broiled seasoned chicken breasts from frozen (learned that from my oldest brother, who loved the moist taste of  seasoned chicken that he served them in sandwiches and salads), pork chops (the idea from my late MIL, who didn’t feel like bringing out the skillet to cook them so it was the easy way to get the dinner cooked within 30 minutes and less dishes to wash) and hamburger patties (in case we can’t BBQ outside due to weather, or we would have ended up like our longtime friends who decided that BBQ’ing in -40 degrees weather was OKAY LOL).

Now back to garage sale-ing, we did buy good items we put to use:

-records of Johnny Cash and Heart, as well as finding cassette tapes of Heart, AC/DC, and Bad English (I wanna hear “When I see You Smile” again,………) 

-2 large plastic hanging baskets

-2 small plastic hanging baskets

-plants, ranging from wave petunias to tomato plants, and perinnial fern (otherwise, as what the sellers told me, they don’t like to see them go to waste, so it has to be used by other garden lovers)

-boys’ clothing (hey, 25 cents per clothing, stil in great shape)

-a rake for two dollars (because we were too lazy to pull the stuff out of the storage room to get the rake we have for cleaning up the yard area to start the gardening)

-a garden decoration that reads:”I TRIED IT BUT IT DIED”

-a houseplant shelf so now the rose plants are free from sitting amongst the “crowded jungle” (in other words, the baker’s rack full of houseplants that cleaned the air in the house)

-a Suzy’s Zoo acid-free photo album (11×14) for DS2’s pictures (regular priced at 25 dollars, unopened, still in wrapper, bought it for 3 dollars).  Now my DS2 has an album of his own, away from his oldest brother’s album.

-Tupperware containers with lids that I have been meaning to keep handy on for dips and snacks to take everywhere without cleaning up the mess.

-five Hot Wheels cars that DH and DS1 thought were rare.  The “General Lee” and “A-Team Van” were the most popular ones that DH and DS1 never expected to find in one of all garage sales.

-a wicker organizer that held all paper bills, letters and notes.  Hey, it was 25 cents for this one, almost ten dollars cheaper than a wooden organizer at Giant Tiger.

-some odds and ends from the free table at one yard sale that saved me money big time and that the stuff I took for free are going to be used for crafting and such.

-kids’ books

-and I could go on, and on, and on,…………………..all above for under 50 dollars.

Oh, how we love garage sale-ing as we buy things to put them back to use again.

Now to gardening,………………….

Last Sunday, it was early morning, and DH was on the computer, DS1 giggling at Pocoyo on Treehouse TV, and DS2 napping in his playpen after a good hearty breakfast of applesauce and mashed bananas with his bottle, and I stepped outside to see what needed to be done before I start gardening.  I didn’t think of bringing the camera out to take the “before” picture, because I was anxious and excited to get started (yes, it was a mess due to tall grass, cigarette butts, and gravel buildup along the sidewalks from the winter snow removal and redcution of ice) so I grabbed the rake and started raking out the mess, throwing out the garbage and dead grass.  Then I took the WeedEater (the one that Dh had kept since he lived in the trailer in the hometown) and mowed down the tall grass along the fourplex building.  DH came out and looked at the bench that I bought from the local auction 4 years ago, and decided it needed a color.  The original color of the bench when I bought it, was a wash stain of greenish yellow, so DH thought of a hunter green color.  I needed more soil for the gardening badly so we went to get paint and soil at Walmart.  The shopping experience at Walmart was pretty unexpected as we bought more things than just paint and soil.  We ended up with a tray of six green sweet pepper plants, one jalepeno plant, one sweet pepper plant, two strawberry plants and two trays of mixed colored impatiens. And oh yeah, paintbrushes to paint the bench with.  We also went to Peavey Mart for specific plants that would compliment the garden very well, and to Canadian Tire (hey, I didn’t say Crappy Tire,………….) and bought a geranium witht eh color of pale pink with slashes of white. 

After getting the garden set up, DH looked at his old wooden toybox (has to be around 35 years of age) and because we bought new toy storage boxes for the toys, DH wanted to throw out the box but I put a stop to it, as it gave me the idea of putting the wooden box to use.  I lined it with the large garbage bag, filled with soil, and I had to buy the packages of peas seeds, carrots seeds, green onion seeds and a seed tape of mesclun lettuce mix, and planted them in the box.  And DH had to use up the hunter green paint by painting the toy box.    In the end, my neighbor (who lived accross the sidewalk from us) had to ask what was planted in the toybox and we told her about the vegetable garden, she thought it was the best idea we did.

Well, now,…………..I need ideas to put together decorative signs for the garden collection.

And yes, pictures will be posted soon,………………..:)

I thought we are ALL grown UP?!?!

May 10th, 2009 by punkyboy2006

Yeah, like, I thought DH and I are all grown up?

As we looked back, we did all the partying but today, it was about parenthood and responsibilities.  But for the rest of the people we thought were friends and family to us, refused to accept us for who we are for the better. DH doesn’t want to party anymore, he wants to be at home every night with his OWN family.  And I am done going out to bars.  Instead, I rather cook delicious meals for the boys and then do the dishes before settling down for the night with them as a FAMILY.  And no one wanted us to change for the better.  Thank goodness we live far from them.

Things are starting to come together as we plan on renewing our vows next year. We haven’t told everyone just yet (except at CPO on one thread on “Family and Relationship”) and we don’t regret making the decision to do it.  We could keep some of the favorite wedding pictures, but for the rest?  We will make it better for years to come in a positive way.  I know it doesn’t seem like it was a long time (three years in July since we have been married, 5 years in October since we started dating), but we want to show everyone that we are not giving up on each other as a married couple and as a family.  And that we are not kids anymore, we are mature adults.

 Maybe I should make the apple cake as a main cake for the evening social? Carrot-apple cake?  What kind of cake topper I could design?  There is time.

Theme?  Harley Davidson or Johnny-and-June Cash theme? LOL

Venue?  By the lake?

So last night, DH was talking to a long time friend via FaceBook IM Chat and we were quite shocked to realize that our friend and his wife (who will be celebrating their 1st Anniversary in July) admitted to us that their wedding last year was NOT what they planned and they didn’t want to get married like this at all.  Their original plan was to elope, with a private ceremony from a marriage commisioner, but things didn’t go their way at all.  All of their families were upset that they EXPECTED them to do it in a proper way to make them HAPPY (I did not know that his mom, my former boss, was very demanding when she was such a great friend to me).  They even didn’t want to be married in a church ceremony at all (gee, I thought the ceremony was beautiful,………..so I thought) and the food and reception was not their thing at all.  So DH’s friend said that he and his wife regretted not standing up for themselves when it comes to their decisions as ADULTS, not “a couple of kids anymore”.  To DH and I, we thought their day was beautiful, but I guess to them, it wasn’t at all.

All I could say is, for our plan to renew our vows, we are doing it OUR own way, and no one has to tell us that we are fools for doing this.  The best part is, DH’s whole family (stepfather and all of his siblings) are not invited at all to be there to ruin our day.  And we only are going to invite those who showed their true support for us as a married couple.

To tell of this, we are not fools and we are not vulnerable.  We want to create a day that we want to show proof that we will not give up as a married couple and as a family.

Oh, what should I write today?

April 16th, 2009 by punkyboy2006

Yes, what should I write today? 

I could try to write a thought on spring and changes in our lives that we want to make the change, but people tell us we are fools?  And everyone would wonder,”what’s wrong?  Talk to us.  We are here to listen”.

For starters, my BIL turn the tables on us.  Instead of being a good brother and family friend to us, he became evil, by criticizing that DH should be working instead of taking extended parental leave.  He didn’t want to hear the whole situation on layoffs from us at all.  He didn’t want to believe us at all.  He played mind games on us as well on the other siblings so no one wanted to listen to what DH had to say at all.  Even worse, BIL stated on Facebook that our boys will grow to be “jerks like their dad”.  I cried on that and my parents were horrified upon reading this.  Life is very cruel.

I wrote a long letter to my oldest SIL, telling her how I felt of why DH couldn’t be treated nicely and positively in the family, as well as invite us to family gatherings since MIL passed away.  I found a box to put the Mickey Mouse doll and the T-shirt (they were not used at all) that she sent for my boys, and the reason I am sending it back is because after finding out that the SILs chose not to speak to us after MIL passed away, why did she sent the Disney souveniers to my boys in the first place?  Hm,….I put a little note that the souveniers can be passed down to another SIL, who is due later this year (strange, she told me that in the past that she didn’t like kids and chose not to have kids at all,…………).

This past week, my DS1 and I have been let down by other moms and kids at Preschool PlayLand and this broke my heart.  Lately, one supervisor was punishing DS1 for being rough, while she let the other kids be rough and aggressive on others (???) and I could not believe my eyes and ears what she did.  And later on, for the Easter Party, the supervisor and the rest of the moms saw us coming in to join in the party and they turn their faces from us and ignored us.  To me, I just don’t understand.  What did I do to offend them?  And now, we felt we are not WELCOME to PlayLand at all.  I had made a complaint to the head co-ordinator, but he didn’t believe me at all, saying that the supervisor was doing her job.  So now what? Where am I going to take my son to play with other kids?

Recently, we were not so sure about our life here in the city we thought “promising and booming”, because of layoffs and attitude problems.  I know people will tell me things will work out better, but the question is not just “When?”  by “Why us?  what did we do wrong to you?”

I guess I have to wait for the last of the inheritance from my uncle’s estate so DH can plan the job search and us planning the move.

Happy Easter!

April 11th, 2009 by punkyboy2006
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24 more weeks,……………

April 1st, 2009 by punkyboy2006

……………, until DH can go back to work full-time.  That’s right, 24 more weeks.  You would be asking,”but I thought he was supposed to be back at work tomorrow?”

 Well, yesterday morning, DH had a bugging feeling he had to call his place of employment to see what was happening the time he would be scheduled back to work tomorrow.  As he talked to both his foreman and shop manager, they told him that within two weeks, there would be all layoffs (except parts wholesale shop and Sales & service, because they have to be there to sell parts and equipment, as well as serve farmers, too), so the manager told him to extend his parental benefits for up to 24 weeks.  So DH called Service Canada about extending his parental leave benefits and the representative informed him that his file will be updated for extension of time.  So what did it mean for me and the little boys?  We were HAPPY, because DH loved being at home with us as a family as usual.  And I can still continue with my crafting as usual.

So excited,…………………..:D

Less than two weeks to go,……………..

March 21st, 2009 by punkyboy2006

DS2 just turned 3 months old this past Monday and it occurred to me that DH has less than 2 weeks to go before he returns to work.  He wished he could have taken three more months from work because he loved being at home with the “guys”, but he doesn’t want to risk missing out on his job.  For the past three months, he did his share of housekeeping, played with the boys, cuddled with me, even started the spring cleaning so early that whatever the items that were hardly used, were put on eBay, UsedRegina.com, and even the local Bargain Hunter magazine.  He even let me have my time to get some of the crafting done, including sewing.  It was a nice feeling getting back to what I love the most.  But for the cooking part, it was in a total WHACK.  The majority of the time were spent on eating 6 small meals a day on different foods (DH is an oriental noodles fan while I crave for veggie wraps and sandwiches ANY TIME of the day, and DS1 lives for Pizza pops and fruit and veggies).  But we make the effort for slow cooker meals and homemade “fast food” so I didn’t have to get out to pick up take out at all.  There were just twice each month that DH wanted me to take a break from cooking for eating out for breakfast at McDonalds’ as a family together (hey, I love Breakfast Burritos and Fruit Parfait!).

With the warm weather approaching, I cannot wait to go outside with the boys.  I can imagine DS1 exploring while DS2 enjoying the warmth from the carseat-stroller.  I also cannot wait to get flowers to plant along the suite, as well as fully fill up two propane tanks for the BBQ season.  I know it is sad to leave the stove yearning for cooking and baking, but at least I might even save some power for the season.  I have started the herb garden and I realized I got so many,………………………………..herb plants for sale, anyone?  Yes, I saved some for myself, but the rest?  Anyone? LOL

I should get back to spending time with DH before he gets back to work.  But hey, he gets two weeks off in July :).

My Boys,…………

March 7th, 2009 by punkyboy2006
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A bad year, ending with a GREATEST miracle! Part Deux

February 8th, 2009 by punkyboy2006

Well, as you all blog lovers know that I have a baby boy on December 16, 2008, there is more,………………..

 The next day after c-section, DH and I went to see Layne at NICU, I was shocked to find that the IV was put on his hand, just like me on IV.  The good part is, at least, the tubes were not put on his head or nose or all that.  His vital signs were great, according to the nurses.  Even the pediatrician told me that he showed no complications at all.  DH and I thought, so if he is fine, what was the point of him being in the NICU? I know it is undestandable that he has to be kept in until he was 36 weeks.  To me, if he is fine, how much longer is he is going to be in there?  The saddest part is, my brother and his common-law wife and her 18yr-old daughter could not be in the NICU to see the new addition, but they can see Layne through the window between the waiting room and the NICU.  For the next 7 days since he was born, we were there every single day, me nursing him and DH cuddling and talking to him.  One day, he had a low level of jaundice so he had to be put under the small light, and DH was not happy.  As we were getting ready to leave for the night to go back to my brother’s house, I had to put Layne in his crib under light, and as I was connecting the heart monitor wires back on to the monitor, and the nurse, Jackie, was adjusting him for comfort when she felt something wet and gooey, and Layne was pooping, so I told her to go wash while I change diapers.  As I was in the middle of changing diapers, Layne pooped and peed all over the crib big time and I found myself laughing as the nurse came back and she laughed, too.  She said,”Wow, a big one!  It’s a good sign that he is getting way better!” So we cleaned up the crib and laughing together, and yes, Layne was very content.  And yes, the jaundice dropped down to normal level within a night.

Two days before Layne’s discharge, DH was rocking Layne when he looked accross the room to find that our friends, a couple, was there, looking at their newborn in an incubator.  We thought that their baby was going to be born in January but I guess not, so I was shocked that the mom-friend and I were on the same boat. The baby boy’s head swelled up due to labour and delivery complications at 37 weeks, but he recovered quickly.  Even more, DH and the father-friend were on the same boat too, irritated by nurses and doctors LOL.  Such a coincidence that we didn’t think our boys were going to be born within 4 days apart when our EDD were 10 days apart in January.

The night before Layne’s discharge, we were at my brother’s house for the evening after a long day at the NICU.  We were praying that Layne was going to be discharged as mentioned by the nursing supervisor, and my common-law SIL’s dad, who lives with my brother and family due to poor health, decided that night he told my brother that DH and I watch a pay-per-view movie and the cost is on SIL’s dad. So we thanked him and DH and I watched “DAve” starring Eddie Murphy.  Ok, we always think that Murphy’s movie was always going to be another FLOP as usual, but we found ourselves laughing throughout the whole movie. The good part is, after the movie, we slept good throughout the whole night.  And when my brother drove us to the hospital early, the pediatrician that checked LAyne gave us the two thumbs up and said,”bring the car seat around and I will bring you a new pack of Swaddlers diapers, because Layne wants to see his FIRST home!”  We were so happy that we told my brother to WARM up his truck so he can take the day off from on-call duty from the stucco company (his main boss and the whole staff found out about me, that one foreman and his wife were phoning everyday for updates LOL).  When we told my brother that Layne was ready to go home, he was waiting for all of us in no time to get us home. So for the next two hours from REgina back to Yorkton, Layne was all bundled up, waiting to get home, andcould not wait to get a close-up look to his big brother, too. We finally reached home, and when we stepped into the house with Layne, he was smiling and he relaxed, knowing that he is finally settled in his first home.  My brother had to hold him most of the time, as he is glad that Layne didn’t spend much time in NICU like my brother did almost forty years ago, when he spent two months in the hospital as a preemie himself. Two hours after we all got home, my parents brought DS1 home after he spent a week and a half with my parents, and even had a few playdates with my mom’s boss’s daughter.  I just couldn’t believe that DS1 has grown over the week and a half’s time, that I asked what did I miss out on!  In the end, we are so happy that we are all home in time for Christmas as a family.

Layne did so well since he was home from the hospital.  The funniest part is that he haven’t lost a few ounces at all when he was weighed by the public health nurse, and to the delight, he went from 5 pounds, 5 ounces on December 16, 2008 to a good 9 pounds, 1 3/4 ounces recently.  When it comes to feedings, he only had two spitups out of all the good feedings.  And for the baby clothes? Well, he is quickly growing out of the clothes and luckily, we didn’t have to go out and spend alot on new clothes as all the clothes were the same ones that DS1 wore when he was a baby.

If you were wondering about the couple and their baby boy that was born at 37 weeks, well, Kieran is doing very well, and is BIG at 10 lbs, a 5 pound-gain from his birth weight over the month and a half’s time.  Since then, Kieran’s mom and I have been checking out each other’s pics of the boys we uploaded on FaceBook so we can imagine the good progress the boys made.  Hopefully next week, we’ll have a first playdate for LAyne and Kieran when we go to the hometown to visit.

Wow, I just can’t believe I have two healthy boys. BOYS! And I can imagine DH getting tackled by the two little boys later on in life LOL.

TO us, it is a GREATEST miracle.

“I get where I am going,……”

February 3rd, 2009 by punkyboy2006

Today is the anniversary of the passing of DH’s mom.  And it is hard to get through the day without thinking of her.

 Tonight, I made myself an instant coffee, but I guess it will keep me awake all night? Drinking the instant coffee has a reminder of all the visits with MIL that always include instant coffee, not real coffee unless she had a huge crowd to serve coffee to.  But now, it is still not the same having the instant coffee without her around,………….

DH’s little sister had wrote her note on Facebook today, which described as ,”I wished I had my mom call me on the phone every five minutes to hear how was my day at the university.” She knew that graduating from high school was not easy because MIL wasn’t alive to see her graduate and be proud of her.  MIL will never be around to see her little daughter graduate from university, get married, and even be there to hold her new grandchild at all.  To me, it was a real tearjerker, and I wish I could tell my little SIL that she is not alone, because my mom have been through this before.  Mom lost her mom when she was 16, and for me, I wish I knew what my maternal grandma was like.  BIL told her in response to her note, that his 7-month-old son and our (DH and I) 1-month-old DS2 will never know how great their grandma is.  And to me, that broke my heart to see that. I know we are not alone, but as to what SIL finished off with in her note:”I never will get to hug my mom again but please hug your moms as often as you’ll never know when it ends”.

For the past year, DH would be down and upset when Mother’s Day came around, MIL’s birthday came and went, even Thanksgiving went, and when money was tight before Christmas, he felt life didn’t matter anymore, and I felt that nothing matters anymore.  And when DS2 came too early, healthy and happy, DH felt that MIL was around to make us happy for Christmas by having a healthy baby in our lives.  I would like to believe it, despite the premature birth, but I am very happy that DS2 is fine and healthy.  And I still feel that MIL is trying to tell us to move on with our lives and be happy for the best.

Take care up there, Linda.





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