Alone time…………..well sort of!!
So Mommy and Daddy might actually get alone time…………………..well not really……………..we had friends in last night so I suppose in a way we did get alone time cause our kiddies were in bed but not so much cause we had company. Don’t get me wrong I love entertaining and what not but I would much rather a night at a nice restaurant and a movie or something with my husband. I think the last time we were out by ourselves was before our son was born and that was seven months ago. And it will continue to be a lot longer………………….as we live in a small community that we know absolutely no one………….well we have a few people my husband works with that we know but not enough for our children to know and know them enough for us to feel comfortable to leave in care of these people. I’m sure they would do an awesome job but still our children have never met them cause they are always in bed when they arrive. So to have alone time with my husband will have to wait till at least June………….OMG June you say…………….well that’s when my MIL (mother-in-law) and her husband come to visit from the mainland……..Hubby and I ususally get to go out once a year………..pathetic I kow but I don’t know anybody that I truly trust with my kiddies…………….and they are my responsibility after all…….so to put it mildly I really can’t wait and even think of getting a hotel room for the night as well 
………………I have to say I really miss the opportunities of getting to spend alone time with my husband…………….I cherish him so much but don’t always get a chance to show it cause we are always tending to the children……………..don’t get me wrong we love our children so much but alone time with your spouse is so incredible when you get the chance to do it……………it’s like going back to dating before we actually had children.
Which we never ever had cause we jumped right in a relationship where a newborn and pregnancy were the start of it……………but that is another story that I will have to share the next time I blog. The story of my husband and I………..truly a princess/prince story……………well to us anyways…………….lol!!
Anyway back to my topic……………..I have a tendancy to digress…………………
We had company over and I actually felt like an adult with adult conversations………………it’s strange but you never truly miss that until you don’t have it anymore……………..lol………….But to be quite honest the first time we had people over I felt so out of place and still kind of do to be honest……………..I felt that I had nothing in common with these people……………..they all had careers and love lives and two of them having a single life and neither one of them had children at all……………..and all I could think about was -Do I really have anything to talk about with these people- I mean one of the couples were just recently married and no children and one was a geological technician and the other an aircraft mechanic…………the other two were single but one was a mine technician and the other was a geologist like my husband - what could I possibly have in common with any of them? After all I was a stay at home mother of three young children who has never worked in the career she had chosen to do and everything about my life at this point is about my children and only them……………I had no career to talk about, I had no experiences to talk about……………..I wasn’t a university graduate like the others and I certainly felt below them………………but why did I feel this way? Because I was a stay at home mother……………that’s silly…………..I just felt on a different playing field!!! I did after all have schooling, and I did live on my own and experience living that way and worked to support myself and did a damn good job of it……………so why did I feel so in adequate? Well I guess to me it was the fact that they didn’t have any children or discover the happiness I had with having my children and getting to stay at home to raise them……………..in reality no one was better than the other……………..we were all equal just in our own ways…………..!!!!
But last night was our second get together with these people and I felt more like myself last night…………….I didn’t need alchohol to make me feel comfortable and I didn’t have to pretend to be somebody I wasn’t. I was completely myself and still I was comfortable with that………….I showed that I could be just as smart and just as easily an adult like them even though I spend all my days with kids………….my hubby and I actually bet them in cranium………..lol………..we rocked!! And I was actually think when was the next time we could get together………….it was nice and I’m glad we had found people to have over and relax with and have a good conversation with………and just enjoy being a couple without kids even though three of them were upstairs tucked in soundly in their beds!!!
Another reason I guess I kind of felt out of place because one of the women that was over last night is about my age maybe a year younger I think and she has asked my husband one day in conversation…………What does Lisa want to do? Does she want to stay home all the time? What else does she want to do with her life? Does she just had you the kids when you come home?(of course my husband answers her the best he could and says no she doesn’t hand of the kids when I come home…………….which I don’t………after all if the kids need us, one of us will be there even if hubby is only home for 30 seconds and I’m doing something or with another one of the children). When my husband told me that it made me feel so uncomfortable, so inadequate and so under everyone else………..but then I realized that she never knew my job, she never experienced my job before and she never seen that staying at home was a full time job that required no university education to fulfill the position!! But yet it was the most rewarding ‘job’ experience that a women can have…………IMO of course!!
Last night even though we weren’t totally alone I still felt as close to my husband as if we were!!!
