Being a new mom
I have now been a new mommy for 3 whole months, and I have to admit I thought motherhood was going to come so naturally and be a breeze and that our new baby would fit into my life style no problem and be relaxed and let me do the things I used to do ( read, crotchet etc…) BOY WAS I SO SO SO SO WRONG!!! I love my little one so much yet she is a lot of work, she cries and fusses and getting her on a nap routine has been a nightmare to say the least plus my Husbands constant comments and reccomendations that he knows nothing about ( aka cloth diapers, tv exposure and shoes on her feet! and his instistence on breastfeeding and not giving her cereal till she is 6 months) I am trying to stay relaxed and roll with the punches but with the sleep deprivation it is so much harder, I don’t feel like myself anymore and I have to admit I miss my tv time, book time and crochet time immensly but I cannot imagine life without my little girl now, she is so darling when she is not fussing, cooing and sucking her fingers and laughing and smiling at me.I wonder sometime if I am being a good mother and giving her everything I can.
I want to join a moms group but with swine flu around the corner my Husband says no so I am pretty secluded here in my home as I am not alLowed to be around other kids in his fear of swine flu ( or H1N1) so from that perspective I am very lonely with only my mom and best friends who both work all day and my best friend has gotten very busy since I had Isla as she is jealous of me. Does anyone else know how to spend the time till the swine flu passes???
Its also amazing how a new baby puts strain on a marriage. My Husband and I fight twice as more now than we did before. I think its my fault mostly because I am crabby at him due to lack of sleep. He isn’t as helpful with the baby as he could be and he says I am not contributing finacialy to the house hold therefore I cannot buy anything ( new clothes books etcc.) like I would have time to read any anyways what with the baby to look after, laundry, cooking and house work. Last week he put for the a new house rule 1. Baby first - thats a no brainer
2. Housework
3. Then I can entertain myself if there is time which there never is.
What I would give for one day to be alone shopping or for a hot meal at supper not cooked by me or cleaned up by me and a decent nights sleep from 10-8. I know this will all come in time but I have to admit I am impatient.
Are there any other new moms out there struggling a little, if you are out there please let me know so I am not alone!!!
